10 Grounding Truths That Will Stop You Apologising For Not Being ‘Enough’ As A Single, Lone, Or Co-Parent
Let This Be Your First Deep Breath In A Long Time:
To Every Parent Wondering If You’re Doing Enough
If you’re reading this, chances are you know what it feels like to carry the weight of parenting largely on your own.
Maybe you’re questioning whether you’re doing enough, especially when no one’s there to tell you otherwise.
Perhaps you’re trying to create consistency in a situation that feels anything but stable.
Or maybe your child asked, “Why are you sad, Mummy/Daddy?” and in that moment, you realised they’ve been feeling the heaviness you’ve tried so hard to hide.
Wherever you are in this journey, here are three things I want you to know:
01
You are enough, and doing enough.
02
You don’t need to be perfect to be exactly what your child needs.
03
You’re not failing. You’re just parenting without a map.
The Hidden Truth About Why Lone Or Co-Parenting Feels So Hard
You know that feeling when you look at your child and see so much potential, beauty, and possibility…
And then feel this crushing weight that somehow, you’re going to mess it all up?
Maybe you catch yourself saying things your own parents said, even though you swore you never would.
Or you notice you’re pushing them toward activities, behaviours, or achievements that matter more to you than to them.
The truth is…
Most of us are parenting from our own wounds without even realising it.
The Hidden Truth About Why Lone Or Co-Parenting Feels So Hard
You know that feeling when you look at your child and see so much potential, beauty, and possibility…
And then feel this crushing weight that somehow, you’re going to mess it all up?
Maybe you catch yourself saying things your own parents said, even though you swore you never would.
Or you notice you’re pushing them toward activities, behaviours, or achievements that matter more to you than to them.
The truth is…
Most of us are parenting from our own wounds without even realising it.
Ask Yourself:
When your child has a meltdown do you:
A
Feel your own childhood wounds rising up, making it hard to stay grounded.
This guide will help anchor yourself during the hardest moments.
B
Stay completely calm and confident in the moment, without ever feeling triggered?
You may already have the inner tools this guide teaches.
When you make a mistake as a parent, do you:
A
Replay the moment in your head, filled with guilt or shame?
This guide will support you in healing and repairing.
B
Move without second-guessing yourself, knowing it's just part of the process?
You may not need this level of emotional support right now.
When your child acts out, do you see it as:
A
A reflection of your failure as a parent?
This guide will help you reframe what "acting out" really means.
B
A sign they need connection, not correction?
You may already tuned in to what's beneath the behavior.
When your child struggles, do you feel the urge to:
A
Jump in to fix or correct them, so the discomfort goes away?
This guide can help you shift from fixing to seeing.
B
Trust them to learn and grow, even though it's hard?
You may already be practicing conscious connection.
You Don’t Have To Be Perfect To Be The Parent Your Child Needs
You Just Need This Free Guide!
The Hard Truth You Need To Hear To Kickstart Healing
You’re trying to parent the child you were - not the child you have.
And every time we react from that unhealed place, we create just a little more distance between who they are… and who we need them to become.
And they feel it.
Children are incredibly intuitive.
They sense when we’re asking them to carry our emotional baggage, and when we need them to be someone they’re not in order for us to feel okay.
Yes, you love your child desperately and want to give them everything you didn’t have.
But until you heal the parts of yourself that are still seeking safety, validation, and love, you’ll keep unconsciously asking your child to fill those holes.
And that’s not their job.
Hi, I’m Aman Kaur
I didn’t set out to become a parenting coach - I became one by necessity.
When my marriage ended in 2018, I found myself in counselling, where it quickly became clear that I had a lot of work to do.
For the first time, I shared what I’d survived as a child… years of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.
It was painful, but it also led me to the path of healing.
Through counselling, I discovered that I’d been parenting from a wounded place and reacting from old patterns, fear, and emotional survival.
I wasn’t the grounded, present mum I wanted to be. I was angry and frustrated.
But over time, I began to heal my inner child, and everything shifted.
I found calm, clarity, and most importantly, I found a deeper connection with my daughter.
Hi, I’m Aman Kaur
I didn’t set out to become a parenting coach - I became one by necessity.
When my marriage ended in 2018, I found myself in counselling, where it quickly became clear that I had a lot of work to do.
For the first time, I shared what I’d survived as a child… years of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.
It was painful, but it also led me to the path of healing.
Through counselling, I discovered that I’d been parenting from a wounded place and reacting from old patterns, fear, and emotional survival.
I wasn’t the grounded, present mum I wanted to be. I was angry and frustrated.
But over time, I began to heal my inner child, and everything shifted.
I found calm, clarity, and most importantly, I found a deeper connection with my daughter.
You Don’t Have To Be Perfect To Be The Parent Your Child Needs
You Just Need This Free Guide!
Healing Myself Changed The Way I Showed Up For Myself & My Daughter
One day, at just 3 years old, she looked at me during a triggered moment and said:
“Mummy, your inner child needs you. I think you need to go sit with her.”
That’s when I knew I was on the right path.
I went back to university to study Childhood and Youth Studies, thinking I wanted to work with kids.
But halfway through my degree, I realised: helping the child begins with healing the parent.
So, I trained as a Conscious Parenting Coach with Dr.Shefali, became a DeMartini facilitator, and launched The Mindful Parenting Coach in 2022.
Today, I guide other single, lone, and co-parents through the same healing that transformed my relationship with my child.
My methods work because I hold space for the parent and the person.
Because when you heal the lens through which you see yourself and your child…the whole relationship transforms.
Healing Myself Changed The Way I Showed Up For Myself & My Daughter
One day, at just 3 years old, she looked at me during a triggered moment and said:
“Mummy, your inner child needs you. I think you need to go sit with her.”
That’s when I knew I was on the right path.
I went back to university to study Childhood and Youth Studies, thinking I wanted to work with kids.
But halfway through my degree, I realised: helping the child begins with healing the parent.
So, I trained as a Conscious Parenting Coach with Dr.
Shefali, became a DeMartini facilitator, and launched The Mindful Parenting Coach in 2022.
Today, I guide other single, lone, and co-parents through the same healing that transformed my relationship with my child.
My methods work because I hold space for the parent and the person.
Because when you heal the lens through which you see yourself and your child…the whole relationship transforms.
Inside “10 Grounding Truths For Single, Lone & Co-Parents,” You’ll Discover:
Why being their safe place matters more than being their perfect parent (& how to create that safety even in your most overwhelmed moments)
Why trying to “make up for” the other parent can actually backfire, and what to focus on instead
How repair builds more trust than always getting it right, and exactly what that looks like in real life
The truth about emotional anchoring that no one talks about (especially when you’re navigating life across two homes)
How to let your love be louder than your fear, even when that inner voice is telling you you’re not enough
The subtle ways kids pick up on unspoken adult tension, & how to protect their emotional world without hiding the truth
Plus MORE!
You Don’t Have To Be Perfect To Be The Parent Your Child Needs
You Just Need This Free Guide!
IMPORTANT REMINDER:
Most Parenting Advice Wasn’t Written For Parents Like Us
It assumes you have:
A partner to tag in when you’re overwhelmed
Consistent routines and predictable environments
The luxury of time and mental space to implement complex strategies
But when you’re doing this alone, or navigating the complexities of co-parenting…
Those picture-perfect approaches can leave you feeling even more isolated and inadequate.
As someone who has walked this path myself, through separation, the messy reality of co-parenting, and the deep work of breaking generational patterns…
I speak from both a place of understanding and professional training.
While many parenting programs focus on behaviour management, routines, or surface-level strategies…
I guide single, lone, and co-parents into more profound, lasting change by supporting their emotional healing and nervous system regulation.
In other words:
This isn’t just parenting advice. This is the deep, lasting inner work that changes everything, for you and them.
Most Parenting Advice Wasn’t Written For Parents Like Us
It assumes you have:
A partner to tag in when you’re overwhelmed
Consistent routines and predictable environments
The luxury of time and mental space to implement complex strategies
But when you’re doing this alone, or navigating the complexities of co-parenting…
Those picture-perfect approaches can leave you feeling even more isolated and inadequate.
As someone who has walked this path myself, through separation, the messy reality of co-parenting, and the deep work of breaking generational patterns…
I speak from both a place of understanding and professional training.
While many parenting programs focus on behaviour management, routines, or surface-level strategies…
I guide single, lone, and co-parents into more profound, lasting change by supporting their emotional healing and nervous system regulation.
In other words:
This isn’t just parenting advice. This is the deep, lasting inner work that changes everything, for you and them.
When You Apply These 10 Grounding Truths, You’ll:
Feel more confident in your parenting choices
Create a deeper emotional connection with your child
Experience less guilt & more grace, for both yourself and your child
Develop tools for co-regulation that settle both your nervous systems
Break free from the exhausting cycle of trying to control every outcome
When You Apply These 10 Grounding Truths, You’ll:
Whether you’re a full-time lone parent, navigating inconsistent co-parenting, or sharing care across two homes…
The weight of holding it all together can feel like balancing on a tightrope in a storm.
You’re so used to holding it together that asking for support feels foreign, or like something reserved for people with more time and fewer responsibilities.
But here’s the thing…
If you keep pouring from a cup that’s already dry, something eventually breaks.
And the relationship you want with your child?
It doesn’t come from doing more. It starts with seeing yourself differently and creating space to breathe again.
So, what are you waiting for?
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You Don’t Have To Be Perfect To Be The Parent Your Child Needs
You Just Need This Free Guide!
© The Mindful Parenting Coach